We often times seek out expert opinions when coping with the death of a loved one or a close companion. There are many articles on how to deal with grief yourself, and how to get back on the road to recovery and a normal life once again. One aspect of death that is over looked is how you may be able to help out a friend or a loved one who is grieving or going through emotional pain.
Think about it, usually when you lose a loved one or someone very close to you, you either want to deal with no one, or only the closest people in your life. So wouldn’t it be beneficial to know how to help out a grieving friend? Here are a few tips for helping to console a grieving friend.
- Listen. This is a simple task to do most of the time, but there is always a time to speak, and a time to listen. The grieving person may just need your presence in order to give them comfort in their time of need. Or, they may possible need to just vent about the thoughts that are going through their mind, that’s okay, it’s not about you.
- Speak when necessary. This ties into the previous paragraph and knowing when to be quiet or when to speak. Sometimes your grieving friend may need some advice, or they might just need you to listen.
Knowing when to speak is a very important thing to consider when helping a friend who is going through loss. Reading articles such as this one will go along way in helping you be the best friend possible.
- Be available. If you truly want to be dedicated to helping your friend get through one of their most difficult times in their lives you need to be available to be around them. While you may not need to be around them 24/7 you still need to try to be available when possible.
Just put yourselves in their shoe for a moment, especially if you have experienced loss such as your friend has. Wouldn’t you want them to be there for you? While you don’t want to think of this topic you may need them to return the favor someday.
There is no cookie-cutter way to help a friend that is going through a loss. The best that we can do is to be there for them lend our ears and just be there for them. Dealing with loss is a process and everyone grieves differently. Just make sure you were being the person you would want them to be when you experience the same.
Please contact us at the Jeff Monreal Funeral Home with any questions you may have about grief for the loss of a loved one. We are here to help you in your time of need.