Planning a Child’s Funeral
Planning a funeral for an infant or child is something a parent never wants to do. While it can be difficult, the act of planning a funeral or memorial service is a way to come to terms with the loss and help with the grieving process. Read on to learn the most common steps for planning a funeral for a child and some of the things you may want to include.
The first thing that must be done is deciding what type of service you’d like for the child. It is up to the parent/guardian and individuals involved in the planning process to decide this. Some opt for a traditional funeral service, which is open to extended family members and friends. This kind of service gives those who know the parents of the child the opportunity to offer condolences and comfort. Other parents choose a more private memorial service. This usually consists of immediate family only holding a small service or visiting the gravesite. The scope of the funeral or memorial service is entirely up to the family of the child, and there is no right or wrong type of service.
Once the type of service has been decided, details of the event can begin to be planned. This can include the type of music played at the service, what colors you’d like incorporated into the decor or ask people to wear, and which readings you’d like to have. Speakers, both family members and religious leaders, if applicable, should be planned in advance of the service, as well. Again, there is no one way to plan the funeral or memorial of a child, and the planning (or lack thereof) of these details is up to the parents.
The funeral or memorial service can help aide parents and loved ones through the grieving process. One of the most important things family and friends can do is listen to the parents experiencing loss. The process of planning the funeral can be extremely difficult for the immediate family of the child, so offering up help with the planning or on the day of the service can be a huge relief. Another nice gesture is to reach out to them on important anniversary dates of the death and holidays to provide support.
Ultimately, the death of a child is the worst thing a parent can face. Taking each action step in the planning process slowly and turning to others for comfort and reassurance is one of the best ways to deal with the loss.